A chicken or an eagle?

What influence past events from our lives have on us and how we can deal with them 🤔

Personalities

It's an interesting thought about the ways in which some people in our society are more great than others ... for example, personalities like Will Smith or Barack Obama. Could people like us ever be like them? I think a lot of us look at such people as being somehow different ... like some kind of deity that at some point appeared out of nowhere. But what's the difference between someone like Barack Obama and someone like us? I mean, he's kind of just flesh and bone like us, right? And he's not much stronger. Maybe he's good-looking, but there's a lot of good-looking people out there.

There is an interesting study on this subject that examines less successful and more successful people. The study itself refers purely to professional aspects, but I would like to consider the personal aspects here as well. Every person gets about 10 big chances in his life. Something like a job offer abroad or the possibility to ask the one to a dance. The less successful people use about 3 of these chances, the more successful ones use 7 on average, by perceiving the same environmental conditions more positively - not as "something that happens", a danger or a problem. They see these environmental conditions more as a chance and option to achieve their goals.

The past and the subjective perception of the world

So how we perceive the world does not depend exclusively on the world. Rather, it depends on what we do with what we see in our minds and hearts. And that in turn is based on the things that have happened to us in life. As a simplified example, you could take a child who once ate a bad passion fruit. Even today, as an adult, the person still associates something negative with the taste of passion fruit and rejects it. Others however, who have had no negative experience with passionfruit, simply see it as a vitamin-rich and delicious snack that is good for them. Similarly, it can be applied to most everyday situations. Each person perceives the same environmental condition emotionally differently and behaves differently based on this. Many people see certain conditions as "something that just happens" or they see them as a problem or a negative challenge. People who are more successful, instead, have given much thought to what they really want to achieve in their lives. They subconsciously look for options to achieve their goals and see the same conditions as an opportunity.

So the difference between less successful and more successful people is not necessarily due to the general conditions, but rather to the beliefs and thoughts in our heads. This means that the difference to great personalities like Barack Obama or Will Smith is perhaps smaller than it may seem to many. Each one of us is perhaps even a little bit more great than he or she might think!

And the more we understand ourselves and the more we look at the opportunities and options in our lives, the greater we can be!

Why don't you try:

Try to become aware of why you perceive certain situations the way you perceive them and why you act the way you act in these situations. Maybe the realization of this helps you to no longer see some events as a risk or problem, but rather as a chance to achieve your goals!